I’m not sure if I was really raped. How do I know?

If you did not give someone permission to touch you, they had no right to do so.

You have the right to give your permission and then withdraw it – if you said stop and someone continued, they had no right to do so.

Children can NEVER give their consent to engage in a sexual act with anyone.

Women and men, adults and children, people of all races, ethnicities, religions, and sexual orientations are raped and sexually assaulted every day. Boys and men can be raped and sexually assaulted by men and women, just like girls and women can be raped and sexually assaulted by men and women.

People who are drugged, drunk, or unconscious CANNOT give their consent to engage in a sexual act.

  • Were you old enough to consent? Children under the age of consent cannot legally agree to sexual acts. States may differ on the age of consent (Generally it is 16-18 years of age, depending).
  • Do both people have the capacity to consent? If there is diminished capacity, due to disabilities, being drugged/drunk or are unconscious, consent cannot be legally given.
  • Did both participants agree to take part? If physical force or threats were used to force sexual contact, then it is rape.
    • It does not matter if you said yes, at first. If you try to halt at any point during the encounter and your partner continues despite being told ‘no’ or to stop, this is rape.